The following article is part five of a five-week series focusing on raising awareness about domestic violence. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and we hope to educate our community on this very serious issue. 1 in 3 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Locally, the Hays-Caldwell Women’s Center has been serving victims of domestic and dating violence, sexual assault and child abuse since 1978. Last year, HCWC served 2,317 victims of abuse (face-to-face) from Hays and Caldwell Counties (a 10% increase from the previous year). 1,047 of those were victims of domestic violence (*numbers have been updated to reflect our annual report for this past year).
At times, we may not know what we can do as individuals to ensure relationships free from violence and abuse for every member of our community. Though Domestic Violence Awareness Month is coming to a close, there are always opportunities to raise awareness and support survivors year-round. Here are five things all of us can do today to end domestic violence in our communities.
1. Know the Signs: 1 in 3 people will experience some form of abuse in a relationship in their lifetime, so it is likely we all know someone impacted by relationship violence. In order to end abuse in our communities, we must recognize its many forms. Abuse is not always physical and it does not discriminate. It can happen to anyone of any gender, age, race or nationality, education level, sexual orientation, economic background, or ability. When we learn more about the dynamics of abuse and its many forms, we can start to end abuse in every community.
2. Don’t Ignore It: It may not always be comfortable to get involved, but support starts by interrupting abuse when we know or suspect it is happening. If someone is being hurt by their partner, check in with them – let them know what is happening is not ok, that help is available, and that everyone deserves a safe and healthy relationship. If someone is hurting their partner, remind them that abuse is never ok and that it is never too late to change their behavior. Abuse thrives in silence, so it’s important that we speak up.
3. Share Resources: It can be difficult knowing where to start when leaving an abusive relationship or knowing how to help someone. Connect people to support by learning your local and national resources. Not sure where to start? Visit HCWC’s website, www.hcwc.org to find a list of resources. Outside of your local center, learn what policies are in place at your school or work that support survivors of abuse. Follow organizations and individuals on social media who are connected to domestic violence issues, and like and share their posts. Social media can also be a powerful tool in connecting people with help. A few simple clicks can make a big impact.
4. Promote and Practice Healthy Relationship Skills: When we practice healthy relationships ourselves, we model them for others. Recognize and respect boundaries. Communicate about the good and the bad, and be willing to compromise. Take responsibility for your actions and words. Support others in your life in doing the same in their relationships and teach children how they can practice healthy relationships. While no one has relationships completely figured out, everyone deserves a healthy relationship and everyone can learn and practice the skills that make them possible.
5. Get Involved: It’s important to keep having conversations about domestic violence with our families, friends, communities, and government. Learn about legislation that can benefit and impact survivors of relationship violence and contact your representatives to let them know it matters to you. Advocate for healthy relationships curricula to be taught in schools. Donate to your local advocacy center to support on-going services for survivors and education in your community. Create your own social media post to generate discussion about issues related to relationship violence and healthy relationships. No matter how small, every action plants a seed that will make our communities safe and healthy for everyone.
To learn more ways to get involved with HCWC visit our website, www.hcwc. org for opportunities to volunteer, donate or get information on services. You can visit our educational website www.StopTheHurt.org for more educational tools on abuse issues and resources. We also invite the public to attend our upcoming Annual Meeting on Thursday, November 7, 2019 at 6pm at St. Mark’s Episcopal Church, 3039 Ranch Road 12. Our program will consist of agency highlights, award ceremony, nomination of board members and keynote speaker, Texas State House Representative Erin Zwiener. She is a longtime ally of HCWC and will discuss her experience as a woman and freshman representative and highlight the work she has done on interpersonal violence including the legislation she presented regarding sexual harassment and sexual assault issues.
