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MADI MICHALAK HAYS-CALDWELL WOMEN’S CENTER
The following article is part two of a four-week series focusing on raising awareness about dating violence. February is Dating Violence Awareness month, and we hope to educate our community on this very important issue. 1 in 3 young people will experience dating violence in their lifetime. Locally, the Hays-Caldwell Women’s Center has been serving victims of domestic and dating violence, sexual assault and child abuse since 1978. Last year, HCWC served 2,257 victims of abuse (face-to-face) primarily from Hays and Caldwell Counties.
In today’s fast-paced dating world, it can be difficult to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy relationships. While dating apps and social media have made connecting with others easier than ever, they often lead people to present only their best selves, making it harder to understand their true intentions, values and personalities. Pop culture adds to the confusion by romanticizing unhealthy behaviors, blurring the line between love and control or passion and toxicity.
These influences can make warning signs harder to spot, even when we try our best. Recognizing unhealthy patterns isn’t always easy, and understanding what makes a healthy relationship takes time. However, certain key values can help guide us.
A healthy relationship is built on respect, communication, emotional safety, trust, consent and consistency. Partners should value boundaries, communicate openly, feel safe sharing emotions and trust each other’s independence. Consent, including emotional boundaries, must always be respected. Most importantly, these values should be shown consistently and through actions, not just words.
Dating violence is never the survivor’s fault, and understanding the key qualities of a healthy relationship is a process. If you’re struggling or unsure, know that support is available.
We are committed to providing free, safe and confidential services to victims of dating violence. If you are experiencing dating violence, please call our HELPLine 24/7 at 512-3964357. For additional information visit our educational website: stopthehurt. org. HCWC’s Prevention Educators are available to give presentations and education about dating violence.
